Planning your wedding is stressful and complicated and sometimes it can feel like your mum is actually making things worse! She’s not, it’s just that it’s a huge event for both of you and she’s trying her best to help. To avoid the fuss and confusion, you should delegate a few of these planning tasks to her so that she gets that chance to help and you lose some of your logistical load.
Your mum can research and scout out potential venues for your wedding. This doesn’t mean she has the final say on where it happens, but you can draw up a shortlist from her picks and visit them yourself. If she’s a dab-hand at getting price reductions and sweet-talking vendors, even better. She can also call on her network for recommendations.
Answering emails and handling phonecalls
You will have dozens of vendors and suppliers calling you and it can really get too much. You might not want your mum to clinch deals for you, but if she can come to you at the end of the day with three quotes for flowers, all you have to do is pick the one you like the most.
Sorting out the guest list and seating
The guest list is one of the biggest headaches, followed by the seating arrangement. Give your mum a bit more leeway here, as she probably has a better idea of who to sit next to whom; she’ll probably also have the time to go over name spellings and sorting out all the RSVPs and addresses.
Bringing in family traditions
If there are any family or cultural traditions that you’d like to include, your mum is the person to ask. She may also have some heirlooms – a veil, for example, that you can use.
Shopping for the dress
Your mum may have been waiting for this moment since you were tiny, so let her enjoy it. It’s a huge thing for her and she’s also probably the only person who can tell you that yes, your bum does look big in that gown and get away with it.